What's up with SurrealDb?

So I put SurrealDB into my project because I have some data better modelled as a graph and, well, just because I wanted to dip my toes into graph database world. This works well but it's driving me mad as a full build of my workspace now takes over 5 mins on my MacBook M3, over half that time is building SurrealDB crates. Then I find a build of my workspace ran for over 50 minutes on a cheap DigitalOcean droplet before crashing out for lack of memory. There would be no hope of building it on a...